Make Goals and Achieve. Make Resolutions and Fail.

by CHERYL GNAD on December 31, 2015

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Make Goals and Achieve. Make Resolutions and Fail.

Your Choice!

Resolutions or Goals? I am always amazed at the influx of people in the gyms after Christmas and into January. Often because of New Year resolutions being acted on…but only 64% of them will make it passed 1 month. Why is that? Why not 365 days?! Then there are those who begin something new over and over and over and…. They never come to the satisfactory end. Why? Did this folks have resolutions or did they have – goals?

I know for a fact that I will review my past year and will reflect on what worked and what to move forward on in this new year 2016. What has motivated me is the setting of goals rather than resolutions. I have never found resolutions to be helpful. Why?

When someone sets a resolution, it is usually one or two things to do for the year. (That’s all?) For example: They have to do one thing – go to the gym 2x a week. That’s it. No plan, no reason why that is emotional enough for them to continue. Then there is the person who says they have ALWAYS wanted to _____, so they plan, they think of the things that must get done to accomplish that wish. That wish then becomes a goal, the goal becomes a practice, the practice becomes a habit, the habit becomes progress, and that progress leads them to attain the initial wish – that one thought that came with a WHY?

Know  your WHY.

This is where your EMOTIONS kick in. Begin your new year with taking the time to know what are the things that you want to see in your life (not just this one year!) and choose the ones that are – emotional – for you. The ones that are emotional are generally tied up with several things that are also emotional and worth working on too! If you work on one, the others will come in to play as well. This is really fun and cool at the same time! I call this the Domino Effect! Create a list of your wishes and wants – choose the ones that really resonate with you and you just can’t seem to imagine yourself to continue without ever achieving them. The ones that don’t really matter – just don’t and won’t! Let them go! They just might become a by-product of your actual GOAL. Note I didn’t say RESOLUTION. I feel that resolutions are nearly always short lived. Goals have a plan, and that plan evolves to get you closer to attaining that GOAL!

Plan your HOW.

Before you begin on the HOW. Make a list of what needs to be done – a list of WHAT. Your HOW will come from that list. Begin each WANT or GOAL write it at the top of your paper. Ask yourself – “what must I do to have/be/do this?”  What that down as your answer or one of your answers. Below that ask the same question – “what must I have/be/do to get this?” Continue this process – question then answer to that question. You will begin to see the things that are in your WHAT list – or you can use that WHAT list as a kick off to other areas for your answers. Take that list of those HAVE/BE/DO actions and line them up as to show your HOW. Ta-DA! NOW, you have a plan that will get you to your GOAL and probably, more than ONE GOAL. Plus, you will be excited about started and maintaining the steps it is going to take to get there, because you have a WHY and emotion attached to them.

As you go through each step of the BE/DO/HAVE you will accomplish something. That, in and of itself, is very rewarding. You will feel like you are succeeding and that keeps you encouraged to continue.

What was lacking before?

For the one who just set themselves a resolution, they realized that there is that possibility that it wouldn’t work. Why? Because the statistics of resolutions being kept to the finish is very very low – only 8%. How many people actually made a new year’s resolution? 45% of us. Actually, about 24% of us never succeed and fail on their resolution each year! When you look at the top resolutions – self improvement/education, weight, money, relationship – these are all very valuable in our lives! This is where 92%  of us fail to keep our resolutions.

So, are you making Resolutions or Goals for 2016?

Sometimes, when we are reviewing our own life and how we can improve upon it, we are so immersed that we fail to see other options or opportunities that will lead us to where we really want to go. This is why I recommend finding a good friend, your spouse, or a coach who will be non-judgemental of your goals and your process of life change. They may see things you have not thought of and help you to consider the value of including them in your plan. I’ve seen this happen many times! It is well worth the time and money to invest in yourself. Commitment is the number one reason why people don’t follow through to the end. Don’t let the enemy “NON-commitment” snatch your dreams away!

Click Here for a Special Worksheet to help you choose the right goals – ones that you WILL ACHIEVE!

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CHERYL GNAD

Cheryl Gnad, of owner/social media consultant with Social Focus by CG, offers coaching and consulting for small businesses looking to incorporate social media into their advertising strategies. She is a self-developed business owner, and a trained social media manager with names like Kate Buck Jr., Amy Porterfield, Kim Garst and Sandi Krakowski. Follow her on Facebook at Social Focus by CG, Twitter@SocialFocusbyCG, and on Linkedin.

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Jeanne January 6, 2016 at 8:40 AM

That’s great advice! It was actually very helpful, and I will come back to download your worksheet later. However, it’s 1.40 am here now, and I need some sleep…

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Krista Kelly January 6, 2016 at 8:49 AM

Your article has fantastic information and I love that you offered a free worksheet to be able to utilize your ideas. Very well done! Thank you!

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Michelle Garcia January 6, 2016 at 12:11 PM

Great article! It is worth the time and money to invest in ourselves!

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Cathy Jennings January 6, 2016 at 1:20 PM

I love the “know your WHY and plan your HOW” system!

Too often we do things for others or because we are told we “should” do something (by someone or a commercial or whatever) rather than looking at our own personal reasons. Over the past year, I’ve let go of a lot of those outside “shoulds” and this year’s path (and goals) are 100% mine!

Thanks!

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CHERYL GNAD January 7, 2016 at 3:01 PM

So true! Many just never do get to their WHY! So it never gets down deep into the heart of the matter. “WHY am I doing this?” For you, it makes you aware of your “shoulds” voice and if you need to listen or not. I love the idea that your ideas are now YOURS! YEA!!!

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Marie Leslie January 6, 2016 at 9:51 PM

Great points. I am a goal setter since forever and having a why and a plan can make all the difference in our success.

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Carol Rundle January 7, 2016 at 2:47 AM

This is a great way to plan out one’s goals. I started using the iBloom planner and it took me through a similar process for this year. I agree with you about resolutions; they just don’t work. Thanks for the worksheet!

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CHERYL GNAD January 7, 2016 at 2:56 PM

I hear a lot about iBloom planners! They are getting lots of attention! I’ve never seen one yet. I love mine and it is big and allows lots of planning and steps along the way. I’ve not even considered doing “resolutions” because it seems to always fail, but with the idea of goals like it is in my planner, I am setting and making – albeit not perfectly – those goals! Hey, you are welcome for that worksheet. I hope it brings you clarity to you or someone you know. 🙂

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Brenda Niemeyer January 7, 2016 at 11:26 AM

Great worksheet and blog. I like the distinctions you make between resolutions and goals. Very helpful!

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CHERYL GNAD January 7, 2016 at 2:59 PM

Brenda, I was reading the slew of articles for resolution making for the year. These ideas weren’t mentioned. I knew it was worth put a blog together for it. Getting the words out to explain it was a challenge at times, because many think “oh, resolutions!….don’t work”, and I wanted to encourage them to consider doing goals! Even my husband thought “oh, I’ve never done a goal on _________ before. Maybe I should do that instead!” It worked to reach him!!

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Ariana Fernandez January 7, 2016 at 4:11 PM

I wrote about this as well. Before I became “enlightened” I make failed resolution every year usually about weight loss and family time. I would do as you said most people do spend one month or time and money one something I was never going to follow through with. I like the addition of the WHY? Seems like a great approach. Also getting an accountability partner helps stay on track with my goals personal or business.

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Roslyn Tanner Evans January 7, 2016 at 9:26 PM

I can’t recall when I last made a resolution & I only started creating goals under the advice of our coach. Knowing our WHY works for any action we want to take. Nice offer to include worsheet.

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Kristen Wilson January 9, 2016 at 6:02 PM

Great point that goals and resolutions are definitely different and we need to make sure that we know why we are doing it and plan it or we WILL fail. (btw, check your heading it has code in it h1)

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CHERYL GNAD January 11, 2016 at 11:43 AM

Hi Kristen, I saw that earlier the H1 but I can’t get rid of it! I’ve tried several ways. Still there or WORSE. Do you know how I managed to get that? and how to get rid of it?

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Vicky January 10, 2016 at 8:38 PM

Great info. Agree it’s important to know the why so we can plan for success. Thanks!

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Jackie Harder January 11, 2016 at 1:37 PM

I think it’s a mistake to go for more than 3 goals (or resolutions) a year. It’s too easy to be overwhelmed by them. Take an overarching goal, then break it down into smaller, actionable steps that are easier to achieve.

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Sharon A.M. MacLean January 11, 2016 at 3:57 PM

So many good intentions. It’s all about commitment, isn’t it?

Writing down and working through the “why” and “how” can helps us see that it’s possible.

Love the worksheet!

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CHERYL GNAD February 10, 2016 at 3:21 PM

I am glad you found the worksheet as helpful! I had to come to learn that the WHY is so very important myself! – the HOW comes when the WHY is answered!

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Katarina January 12, 2016 at 7:31 AM

Great post, thanks! Well think goals are probably better, but I do not believe much in doing resolutions. 😉

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