Build Your Confidence – Give Yourself Credit for the Small Victories!

by CHERYL GNAD on November 30, 2015

Here is a commentary on:  Give Yourself Credit for the Small Victories. by Meredith Bell.  GREAT READING IN THIS ARTICLE! Visit Meredith’s site “Your Voice of Encouragement”.

Confidence and encouragement toward your victories

Read this article about “encouraging yourself” . Here are some quoted sections:

“The way to build your confidence is to be on the look-out for things you’ve done well in the course of your day, no matter how small, and recognize the accomplishments.”

“So at least twice a day, take time to reflect on what you’ve done so far in that day that you are proud of.”

I once struggled with running through my day with confidence. After all, reaching out and speaking to “strangers” uninvited, was scary for me. This was MY STRUGGLE. So why did you do it, you ask? One of MY SUCCESSFUL traits, as well, was to improve myself! I am VERY goal oriented too! I just happened to fall into great business opportunities that required me to do prospecting for customers/business. I can accept meeting new people but then only IF they come up to me, but for me to “butt” in and say “hello, I’m Cheryl Gnad with …” caused me a lot of anxiety! In other words FEAR! I had no confidence in myself. So, I had to have a reason to overcome. My reason was to have control of my destiny in business, create my income/rewards, and to find ways to help other people get what they want.

I have a strong desire to create opportunities for others to improve their lives. Too many people feel stuck in their situation and struggle needlessly, and sadly. Stressed out marriages, finances are dwindling, kids are struggling in school, and families that are being pulled apart, because people can’t get answers to their own “fears” and can’t lift themselves up! You can recognize them with “I can’t”, “I will somehow”, “I just don’t know what to do”, “I’ll try”, “its impossible”, or “maybe I will win the lottery”. Another big sign of someone who are “stuck” in their downcast mental state is when you hear them play the excuses or blame game. Words like “they did it”, “they have it out for me”, “its unfair”, and anything implying that it is the others fault that they can’t do something. This is one of the hardest mindsets to help change because change is up to the one needing to make that decision to change. No one can make that decision for them.

It is a funny thing for me. Because of my own struggles meeting people, asking for their business, and desiring to be “liked”, I have worked all the more harder to overcome. Am I successful? Personally, I had not given myself a good grade. I still set high standards for myself and I “measure” my success. I spoke all too often in terms of “I must”,  “I have to”, or “I should”.  All of which once led me to not be able to measure myself successfully in.  I have a mentor/coach that says that I’ve greatly improved, and can do all that it requires of me to be successful, that I have what it takes! Others see this and attest to it, but I didn’t recognize it. So my friends and personal  mentor are invaluable to being my mirror of myself and letting me see my successes. Today, I have that confidence and recognize certain talents and gifts that propels me to my successes! I say to myself everyday, “I get to…”, “I want to…”, “I’ve successfully been able to ….” etc.! Things have changed immensely! I’ve had a great coach myself, and she was instrumental for me to recognize that I CAN BE that person I imagined myself as!

Becoming a business owner was not an overnight success or process! What it did do for me was to get me to ask the hard questions about myself and drove me to find the right answers! I was always looking to better myself, to walk in confidence. You can find that drive in you and you can look forward to meeting that challenge! I knew it would be, and I stuck it out! There were lots of “hills and valleys” to travel, but it WAS WORTH IT! It will be for you too!

Read the above article, comment on your struggles that you are overcoming or have overcome. How did you find the way toward  success in your goals? Take this advice. Treat yourself with even the smallest victories, recall them, FEEL them again mentally, and do this daily! Find a good friend/mentor to be your mirror, or a coach to help guide you to your dreams or goals, hopefully someone who is in the game of self-improvement too, and has traveled where you’ve been. Find an activity or business opportunity to practice your self-improvements in and GROW!

My business models are all about helping others – personal business ownership, social media marketing, social media coaching, and personal development. If you need a venue to practice and get the leg up to improve your life or business, give me a call or send me an email. I love working with people driven to make a change! It is just a decision.

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CHERYL GNAD

Cheryl Gnad, of owner/social media consultant with Social Focus by CG, offers coaching and consulting for small businesses looking to incorporate social media into their advertising strategies. She is a self-developed business owner, and a trained social media manager with names like Kate Buck Jr., Amy Porterfield, Kim Garst and Sandi Krakowski. Follow her on Facebook at Social Focus by CG, Twitter@SocialFocusbyCG, and on Linkedin.

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Beverley Golden December 23, 2015 at 1:00 PM

Reading this reminded me that we are all in process…we are human becomings and each of us have different temperaments and personalities, so rather than being hard on ourselves, we have to take steps outside our comfort zone if we want to expand and grow. I used to be painfully shy when I was younger and people mistook that for being aloof and standoffish. Now when I tell people I was shy, they simply do not believe me. I can’t say exactly where the shift happened, yet as I grew in my life, things transformed. They aren’t always conscious either, as sometimes it happens by virtue of the place we are at in our lives. It’s good to challenge our “comfort zone” and I agree it is also important to acknowledge ourselves. The health and wellness team I am aligned with asks us to “brag” about even our smallest accomplishments and yet for someone like me, who is always looking for the bigger accomplishment, I am learning to acknowledge the small things too. Lots of small things add up to big ones eventually.

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CHERYL GNAD December 24, 2015 at 4:16 PM

Beverly, I agree wholeheartedly with ALL that you said! Yes, age seems to aid us in understanding that we need not take everything that comes at us to heart! Some of it isn’t important or it is misguided! Much of it, at the wrong time! Being aware of what IS working despite our struggles, is crucial to realizing that “it didn’t hurt after-all!” and just going forward the next a little bit more confident and readily. Tx for the comment!

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Tamuria December 23, 2015 at 2:08 PM

Such good advice to take the time to celebrate the little successes each day. I spend a lot of time telling myself “I should..”, “I must…” but rarely think to say “well done for…”. I am certainly going to try and focus on this more as I know you are right and it will increase confidence.

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CHERYL GNAD December 24, 2015 at 4:11 PM

You KNOW which voice gets all of the attention right? “The one we feed!” I “hear” ya! I, too, MUST be aware of those “other” non helpful voices! Continue to be “GLEEFUL!”. That will drown those voices out!

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Roslyn Tanner Evans December 23, 2015 at 4:04 PM

Thank you for sharing about your personal growth. So many put on a face as if they have always been where they are now forgetting that they started once as a toddler. I was thinking of doing a blog roundup for my last one of 2015. My struggle has been blog writing 1 a week. When I read my early ones in 2015 versus the past few months I am amazed at the growth. Some are collaborative & I have a coach who is an editor & excellent writer. She keeps telling me I’m coming along great.
My take away is- Iall I want to do is make & sell our jewelry, but other tasks must be managed. They can be challenging & I can take it on & slowly move thru it.

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CHERYL GNAD December 24, 2015 at 4:09 PM

Hi Roslyn! Yes, I noticed that not all business owners that blog about their experiences or fears are up front – if at all! My story is full, I can tell you this for sure! I have had a coach for nearly a year and she has been doing wonders for me! Not everyone can have a coach but they sure would benefit from one! As a solo-preneur you and I are often having to dive into something we’ve never have done before and many would not even try it! Ha! If only writing 1x a week were all that we had to deal with! I do think you can make a lot of head way with the mentors you and I have! Keep on KEEPING ON – your jewelry is beautiful! It will come!

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Vatsala Shukla December 24, 2015 at 6:17 AM

Confidence is a situational context for me, Cheryl and if I see myself faltering, I step back take a few deep breaths and ask myself ‘why’. More often than not, my intuition is telling me to back off or get more information.

As part of my self-confidence ritual I make it a point to make at least 1 entry in my Gratitude Journal every night before going to sleep. It helps to keep me resilient to the challenges that the day presents.

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CHERYL GNAD December 24, 2015 at 4:05 PM

Resilience is key here! We do face lots of obstacles to our goals, and many times it means doing something we’ve never done before. Being afraid of those situations and “running” in the opposite direction just doesn’t allow for personal growth. You are, at least, giving that growth a chance to happen. Granted, not everything needs to be tackled! Sometimes there will be another story to take on instead, which will bring greater joy in our lives! Thanks Vatsala

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Lisa December 27, 2015 at 8:04 AM

Great advice, it is all to easy to fall into the trap of “what I did’t get done or do right” I love the idea of taking small breaks through out the day to celebrate the good things and accomplishments.
Like Vatsala, I too have a end of day gratitude journal, even if it is a few words or sentences, I think it helps…I much prefer it over the evening news…
Thank you for this post, good job

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