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Identify Your Inner Voice! Is It Yours, or Someone Else’s?

The author’s story of trusting in her own Inner Voice.

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In the 1970’s, while in high school I was trying to find areas of “purpose” or “career” in my life. Most high school kids are. I found that I was doing well in the math and science fields. In my Senior year, math was fun but soon became challenging! I was near the top of the class – and doing independent study in – Algebra 2. But I could not keep up with a classmate who was going to go into Indianapolis – Navy Academy! He was – Brilliant! He was doing great. With his help,  I thought I could! But I couldn’t. The teacher convinced me to rejoin the class and finish the year with them. However, as much as I like math and science (I was even the only girl with a bunch of boys in the physics class!) I kept trying to aim for a “career” in science – like medical lab technology. Yet, I was SHINING in music – instrumental music! I was first chair clarinet in the orchestra, shared leadership 1st and 2nd chair in band, earned 1st chair in the the city Youth Orchestra and STATE Orchestra, and won 1’s in my contest solo ratings! I was a very good clarinet player! What follows is interesting to see what transpired while in college.

I entered college with plenty of core classes, but heavy in chemistry, and math. I did sign up for my “other credits” to be in music: private lessons, small ensemble and band. I did well but no longer “shined” in math or science. By the end of the second year you had to declare your major and take courses that fulfilled those degree requirements. I approached class selection day with in trepidation. Why?

For years, in my young life, I tried to please my parents in my academic activities. This was the only way I felt valued.  I was extremely afraid of earning grades less than a B, but I had sure make an A in there somewhere! I was considered rather nerdy in high school because of my drive to be the top – and I never was, just good. I even ranked in the top 10% of the graduating class! My parents approved of my efforts to do medical lab technology. Yet, I soon saw that MY dream was not to be secluded in a small lab of less than 10 people. I wanted to influence lots of people with my message of hope and in sharing my faith in Jesus Christ. By the start of the 3rd year of college, I was remembering a high school teacher that exemplified who I wanted to be like. She was a music teacher, and an emergency foreign exchange student guardian with her teaching husband. She shared herself in such a way that I had to ask her personally “are you a Christian?” It just showed! I wanted to be like her.

As I was trying to decide how to go forward in college, I found that medical lab technology wasn’t going to bring me the joy of serving my Lord like being a teacher would – and being a MUSIC teacher was also right in line with my passion for music. I DID great things in music and I FELT I could be like that one teacher I remembered from high school. So, in great fear, I approached my course selection for the next semester – in tears!!!!!!! WHY?!!! Because I wanted to do as my parents wanted, but I wanted to do what I felt called to do. Serious conflict was raging in me!

A college counselor saw my anxiety and sternly during this ordeal, and suggested I listen to MY heart and do what I wanted with MY education. It was for ME, not my parents. He lead me to the counseling table and laid out my future music education degree path and helped me select my courses. I then went home to tell my parents that I am doing what I felt was “disobeying”  them. I felt horrible and sad. But I was feeling liberated in going into music education! So I picked my dad to be the one to tell – the one who would be less emotional about it. My dad took it very well, in fact. That was a surprise. He just looked up from his paper, heard my declaration that I would be paying for college now – for the classes that would lead to a music education degree. I couldn’t expect them to pay for something they totally disagreed with. They could continue in paying for any other courses. He just said “ok”.  That was that. Now, if I told this to my mom, it would have been a very emotional scene. I asked dad to tell her for me and I think he did. My mom, was raised by a single mom, who struggled as a teacher, and who went on to be educated to be a principal. My mom didn’t want that for me. Money never was a prime goal in my choice of career. Helping young kids grow and be mentally, emotionally, and independently strong was my prime goal. The choice of being teacher just didn’t fit many people’s idea of being on the path of success.

By the time I finished my courses in music education, I was on the Dean’s List and a talented musician and teacher. I taught instrumental music – and struggled in it – for 3 full-time years and 7 part-time years as I had met my husband when I was teaching, and started a family. I found myself helping young people find ways to trust God in their lives, saved one from wanting to commit suicide later in her adults years because of her memory of our conversations and my love for her when she was my student, and today I am still in touch with her, 30 years later! I have been that teacher that I wanted be like back in high school. Today, I am still a very good musician,  was asked to play clarinet 2x with this city’s Symphony Orchestra, lead a church choir for over 20 years, supported the young people who wanted to be in my choir and pray for them today as they now lead adult lives.

There will always be the “nay-sayers” to you pursuing your dream or passion. Whose inner voice are you going to listen to? That inner voice you may think is very important. It could be your parents. I heard my mom’s voice inside me for many many years into my adulthood.  I continued in not wanting to disappoint her or make her unhappy with me. I made my self-concept dependent on how she thought of me. I never felt worthy or capable of doing what I had a passion for outside of music because of the negative self talk, that inner voice, I heard her “voice” in my head.  I learned through therapy that I was allowing this to make myself miserable. It need not be that way at all. It was OK to listen to MY VOICE, my own INNER VOICE and act on what I felt was in my best interest.

YOU are responsible for the totality of your life. Your choices are to be for you. Others will do the same and if they aren’t making decisions based on their own needs they may be giving away a valuable right to being the one who God created them to be. If you listen to YOUR creator – God – you will be listening to the One that made you – He is your “creator”, listen to HIS voice,  He knows you through and through. He wants what is best for His creation – YOU! Become the person you always “dreamed” you could someday become. I finally did.  Yes, a bit late in life, but I have and am still becoming, who He created me to be.  I am a child of God. So are you.

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Social Focus by CG – Cheryl, is also a coach. She works with business owners to build their mindsets so that it will reflect the results they desire in their business through their social media. Cheryl is not a therapist, but has had her own life trials that have brought wisdom and match that with her training to be a coach, she gets results. Her client’s social media begins to grow and show the culture that thrives and creates greater business opportunities. If you would like to chat with Cheryl about the possibility of receiving social media coaching WITH coaching or just coaching, Cheryl “as an app for that” — no, Cheryl has a program for that. Contact her at: www.socialfocusbycg.com/contact to make arrangements for your free inquiry call for coaching! 

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Target Audience in Facebook Workshop

Ready, Aim, FIRE!

Taking Aim and Targeting Your Ideal Customer

 

on Facebook for Great Engagement!

Learn great tricks and practices to increase your REACH and ENGAGEMENT on Facebook!

 

April 28th,   Past date!

 — at the Riverwalk Church of Christ – 225 North Waco, Wichita 11:30 am-1:30 pm

Tickets $30  at http://readyaimfire-onfacebook.eventbrite.com  OR

May 17th,

 — at home conference room of Linda Shinogle, 800 Peterson, Wichita 7-9 pm

Tickets $25  at https://readyaimfire-facebookengagement.eventbrite.com

Presented by Social Focus by CG – 316-530-1419

 

We know Facebook has severely limited it reach and thus its engagement, unless you do their ads. How about learning how to still grow your reach and engagement organically – despite this limitation? At this workshop you will learn:

  • What kinds of posts will attract attention?
  • How often to post to stay in their feed?
  • How to build a culture in a Facebook community that loves you and stays!
  • Facebook LIVE for creating LOTS of reach and engagement.
  • Optimization – are people able to find you or really know you?
  • Learn 2 tricks that will boost your online/Facebook presence and sales.
  • Learn what tools that will make posting consistent and easier.
  • Find out what tools can make you stand out with viral graphics for your posts.
  • and MORE!

Who is this workshop for? Those who are:

  • Small to medium sized business owners
  • The business owner who wears all hats – owner, marketing, finance, hr, customer service, etc
  • Direct sales or network marketers
  • Solo-preneurs
  • Start ups
  • Online businesses in product/services sales

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